Friday, April 29, 2011


I just got into a surprisingly ugly debate with a complete stranger on Facebook.  It ended with name calling and while I'm not taking it personally, I am both saddened and amused by the way this man misconstrued what I thought were relevant, thoughtful and honest comments about a subject that I am intimately connected - single members of the LDS church, specifically single women.
I don't know why I get caught up in these things - I know that I should just let it go, delete my comments and move on but something deep inside me just won't let it go.  

If there is anything I learned from this, it is that I need to watch my tone.  This man I've never met twisted everything I said, insulted me and called me bitchy.  While he's an argumentative idiot who doesn't know what he's talking about and I reserve the right to be bitchy when the situation calls for it, bitchy was not my intended tone of my comments.  I actually went to great lengths to keep my comments positive and hopeful while pointing out some issues I have observed.  I may have failed on that front and it made me think about this blog.  I try to be honest here, but I don't want it to be a place of bitterness.  I try to balance my frustration with hope.  And if I sometimes read a little bitchy, well, we can't all be sugar and spice all the time.



  1. AND you don't HAVE to be sugar and spice ALL the time. YOu have every right to be bitchy, and so do I as a matter of fact. But in this type of moment I would breath deeply and simply move on.

  2. Ugh. I feel you. I had a very similar experience this week. The internet is great, but tragically, all too often people misinterpret well-intended remarks. Hate that. If it's any consolation I LOVE that you have an opinion and are real. Deep breaths, watch some royal wedding and keep being fabulous!

  3. Ahh Maggie -- you have read too many of my blog posts and facebook commentary to know that I have the same issues at time. I don't think you have anything to worry about -- those who know you - know you and you have nothing to worry about. For those who don't know you -- well they can take a flying leap if they want to take what you have said and misconstrue it:)

  4. Maggie - I had to go snoop on your facebook to see the conversation -- no where did you come across bitchy. Seriously, what does that man know about being a single woman - I concur with you in every way. I had three degrees and men where turned off by it -- and I also found that married women where turned off by it too -- I got questions all the time, about when and why I wasn't married - if pursuing an education where more important than marriage and family. I would tell them that while marriage and family where plan A -- plan B better be good because I wasn't going to be a single woman stuck working a mediocre job -- and plan C marriage fails or spouse dies etc. I would be in a much better position than they would be to support children. Anyhow there's my two cents -- I wish I could have been involved in that commentary.